Dr. Patti Britton, author of “The Art of Sex Coaching” — Nov. 28, 2017

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Dr. Patti Britton is a friend and colleague of some twenty-seven years. She and Dr. Diana feel passionately about sexuality – and they both teach, coach, and offer therapy. Her URLs are: www.DrPattiBritton.com; www.SexCoachU.com and www.SexologyU.com. Here you will find in-depth, sensitive approaches to thorough training. Dr. Patti’s life partner of 17 years died earlier this year…Dr. Robert Dunlap was also her business partner. He left a huge legacy: we discussed it on the air. On Robert’s deathbed he said to his beloved, “I wish we had had more time together…and had spent less time with other people’s problems.” Death is a teacher. Don’t defer the love, the joy. Our mutual friend Dr. Stella Resnick sums it up with “Carpe Diem, Dammit!” Dr. Robert was a man well loved and had a life well lived. Dr. Patti will return in early 2018 to discuss what strategies she recommends for self help before someone needs professional help: women – top issues; men – top issues; couples – top issues. Stay tuned!

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Dr. Lori Buckley, author of “21 Decisions for Great Sex & A Happy Relationship” — Nov. 21, 2017


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Dr. Lori Buckley – www.DrLoriBuckley.com – returned to the program. Her book is 21 Decisions for Great Sex & a Happy Relationship and can be purchased on Amazon. This is the time of year to express gratitude; although, all of us would be happier if we did it every day. The happiest couples work to build positivity into their relationships. Positive emotion is about more than just having fun – it includes gratitude, inspiration, and curiosity! Gratitude helps remind us of the good qualities in our partners. Dr. Lori’s Chapter 2 is “Cherish Your Partner,” and suggests this exercise: “I feel loved and cherished when you…” A man married forty years has this precious perspective, “The love between two people is sustained by the multiple roles of lover, partner, friend, and champion.” Yes, with more positivity and gratitude, the payoff is great: more fun, more growth, better sex, and more sustained intimacy!

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Veronica Monet, Certified Sex Educator and Sexologist — Nov. 14, 2017


Veronica Monet, a relationship and sexuality coach – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – returned to the show. She and Dr. Diana discussed sexual harassment. In her twenties, Veronica had some personal experiences with powerful men in Hollywood. Sexual harassment has become normalized, and of course, it is an abuse of power. Then there was this topic: How guilt and empathy can save us from shame and low self-esteem. Most folks don’t enjoy feeling guilty; so, why would she encourage us to connect with our guilt in a positive way? In her work, she encourages her clients to get in touch with the inner, innocent child which helps them reconnect with those they might have harmed. Empathy should come into play here. Like so much in life, thinking about the feelings of others hinges on emotional regulation. A person who can control his/her own emotions (especially negative ones like anger and anxiety) without denying them will be able to tolerate others’ upsets, not prompted to run from them – and able to help. Veronica spoke about healing from shame. In her Part 2, scheduled for December 12, 2017, we will have an expanded conversation about sexual healing.

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Brad Coates, Esq., author of “Divorce with Decency” — Oct. 24, 2017

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There’s a reason fairy tales always end in marriage. It’s because nobody wants to see what comes after. It may be too grim. Brad Coates knows all about marriage and divorce – as a divorce lawyer ( www.CoatesandFrey.com) who authored Divorce with Decency, now in its Fifth Edition. Brad is a frequent guest, and this time he and Dr. Diana discussed “What Women Want…Female Needs, Desires and Behavior in Romantic Relationships.” Stats partly tell the story: of those who file for divorce, two-thirds are women; 60% of men, but only 35% of women say sexual activity is important to their lives; 77% of divorced women surveyed said they valued independence and privacy over remarriage. Since marriage is no longer imposed by economic necessity, many marriages are not held together by need, so much as by love. But in the “old days” male courtship skills were important. Now newly empowered women want and expect understanding and basic kindness from their mate, as well as good sex. There are the so-called “Viagra Divorces”; i.e., once erect, men tend to skimp on foreplay. They may want to use their erections now that they can have them again – not always considering their mate. There’s more…Tune in!

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Barbi Benton: Remembering Hugh Hefner — Oct. 10, 2017

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Barbi Benton, Dr. Diana’s good friend of 20 years, discussed Hugh Hefner (aka Hef) and his legacy as the creator of Playboy magazine. Barbi was his good friend for nearly 50 years! Hef was a sexual and social pioneer who took sexuality out of the shadows and presented it as part of the Good Life. Barbi shared their good life as a couple (1968-1976), and then how they had remained friends until his death September 27, 2017. Barbi recalled trips with Hef on the customized “Big Bunny” plane with a round bed and a shower so that, upon landing, they could emerge refreshed. They traveled to Africa, Paris, and Spain – among other places. Barbi described her man as a romantic: “He always had his hands on somebody…but, when it was me (often), I was so proud to be with him. I felt I ‘belonged.’” He also loved kissing! Diana and Barbi were at the Mansion in 2006 for “Fight Night.” It was there that Dr. Diana got to briefly talk to Hef about Dr. Helen Fisher’s work. When he started Playboy in 1953, America was a sexually sick country…the words “sex” and “pregnant” were not allowed on TV. Oral sex, contraception, and factual sex education were illegal. Barbi will always love Hef and admire how he did it his way – which, when it comes to sexuality, is exactly what he would encourage the rest of us to do!

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Carol Queen, author of “The Sex & Pleasure Book” — Oct. 3, 2017

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Masturbation and Sex Toys! Do I have your attention? Dr. Carol Queen (www.CarolQueen.com or www.GoodVibes.com) returned for this informative Part 2. Her The Sex & Pleasure Book – Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone is a comprehensive book which advises, enlightens, amuses, encourages – so that sex and intimacy can be so much more fulfilling. Masturbation. How can one simple word be so complex? For many, relationships are the main goal in life; therefore, nurturing a sense of self-love gets lost in the mix. Dr. Carol and Dr. Diana explored how healthy masturbation is, and how the exploration of one’s self can lead to better partner sex and orgasms! Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations 40 years ago in San Francisco, and Carol Queen developed the educational training for female-friendly, in-house retail sales. We discussed the history of masturbation and vibrators, and the most popular sex toys for women and men. For a lot of women, vibrators are an essential part of their sex life because, yes, it may provide a guaranteed orgasm!

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Carol Queen, author of “The Sex & Pleasure Book” — Sept. 26, 2017

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Dr. Carol Queen (www.CarolQueen.com and www.GoodVibes.com)  observes in her The Sex & Pleasure Book – Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone: “Most of us weren’t given an operating manual for our wonderful bodies and the myriad sensations we can experience with them…especially not in sex education…Can you imagine if Driver’s Ed consisted of a teacher saying, ‘Now here’s a car: Now don’t drive it!’” Dr. Diana and Dr. Carol had a lively discussion around being sex-positive, sexual orientation issues, and transgender identities. Why has the term sex positivity come to be misunderstood in so many circles? What about sexual orientation and its fluidity? In her book is great advice/resources for transgender folks and the parents of trans kids. Sex can be a way of working through fears and crises, as well as a place for growth, forgiveness, fun, and friendship!

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Joan Price, author of “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50” — Sept. 19, 2017

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Joan Price (www.JoanPrice.com) is on a mission to dispel the myth that older people are not interested in sex! In her books, talks, and webinars she suggests how folks can reclaim their sexuality. Joan has written The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50, Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty, Naked at Our Age, and Ageless Erotica. Two days ago Dr. Diana heard Joan speak at Catalystcon in L.A. where she was especially impressed with these topics: Expanding What Sex Is; Explore and Celebrate Sexual Pleasure; Enjoy Orgasms – With or Without a Partner; and Responsive Desire. The conversation was enlightening! You can listen to the podcast and you can sign up for one of Joan’s webinars. If you email her at joan@joanprice.com and put “Diana Wiley” in the subject line, you will receive links to her  webinar topics, receiving a special offer for a 90-minute webinar of your choice for $35.00 (instead of the usual price of $49.00). There are five to choose from: 7 Steps to Reclaiming your Sexual Pleasure; Sex Toys for Seniors; Great Sex without Penetration; 12 Steps to Sexy Aging – Starting Now; and How the Heck Do I Date at This Age? Joan Price provides a wealth of information regarding sexuality at any age!

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Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce, teacher of Conscious Living Sexuality — Aug. 29, 2017

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Great sex is not about technique. It’s about integrating your head, heart and spirit with your genitals. Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce (www.drnsp.com) returned to the program to help sort this out. On September 16th she will be a speaker at Catalystcon (www.catalystcon.com). Her topic: “Sexy Doesn’t Have An Expiration Date.” Dr. Diana interviewed Dr. Nancy, covering the following topics: How do we define sexy and why is it even important? What happens to us when we don’t feel sexy? (Depression, health issues). She does some Myth Busting – namely, SEXY IS A LOOK OR SIZE; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY OVER 50; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY AND A GRANDMOTHER; IT’S NATURAL TO LOSE INTEREST IN BEING SEXY AS YOU AGE. Good sex is not about how your body looks or how you position it. It’s about your frame of mind and the emotional connection with your partner. Many older women are able to say what they want, no longer apologizing for their eroticism. The enjoyment of sex is then likely to be increased! Dr. Nancy also asks, “What advice would you give to your much younger self?” Perhaps it is that instead of getting someone to love you, you want to be someone capable of loving! Or maybe it is important to maintain your sense of separateness – not always doing everything together, and understanding that the central agent of eroticism is the imagination. You must be willing to take risks, to play! As we age, many of us hope for this: with any luck, a modicum of health, and a willingness to remain open to its potential, the deliciousness of sensual intimacy can continue right to the end.

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Brad Coates, Esq., author of “Divorce with Decency” — Aug. 15, 2017

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Brad Coates (www.CoatesandFrey.com) knows all about marriages and divorce because he’s been a divorce lawyer in Honolulu, Hawaii for forty years. His popular book Divorce with Decency is now in its Fifth Edition. Dr. Diana and Brad, longtime friends, discussed how the Internet, social media, and porn have all contributed to the unraveling of marriages. Complaints about porn use constitute the number-one problem walking in the door of many couple and sex therapists today – a direct measure of the power that privacy afforded by handheld devices has to disrupt intimate relationships. Couples almost never discuss their sexual desires; some studies show that couples who view pornography together as partners find it easier to discuss their sexual desires and fantasies. As always, communication is key. Brad brought up teledildonics, a way to recreate the feelings of real (virtual) sex. Will this virtual reality sex replace real life sex? It may be on the horizon for some. Back to reality: in order to avoid divorce, never stop courting. Do not take your mate for granted, never get lazy in love!

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