Brad Coates, author of “Divorce with Decency” — April 18, 2017

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There’s a reason fairy tales always end in marriage. It’s because nobody wants to see what comes after…it may be too grim. Brad Coates (www.CoatesandFrey.com) knows much about marriage and divorce, and is the author of Divorce with Decency – soon to be  in its Fifth Edition. Dr. Diana and Brad reviewed some of the factoids in his book, including, “Men are usually the first to say ‘I love you’.”  Perhaps this is because they are more romantic and want more non-sexual affection, stereotypes aside. “One-half of all divorces happen by year seven of the marriage”; indeed, the “seven-year itch.” There are anthropological reasons at play. “Marital satisfaction does increase with each successive year…once you have made it past the first twenty-five years.”  John Gottman, one of the nation’s leading marriage researchers, reports that older married couples tend to behave like younger married couples outside of the bedroom – with a sense of kindness. We discussed many other aspects of Brad’s book, a book that can save your marriage! Tune in to discover the details!

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8 Lies About Sex You Need To Stop Believing (Huffington Post, Apr. 11, 2017)

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I recently contributed to this Huffington Post article: 8 Lies About Sex You Need To Stop Believing, According To Sex Therapists.

Here’s what I said in the article:

Myth No. 3: You have to feel “hot enough” to truly enjoy sex.

“Media and porn may be to blame for women believing they have to have a beautiful body to be alluring and enjoy sex. Typically, men don’t notice a woman’s physical ‘flaws.’ All they think is, ‘Oh my God, a naked woman is near me!’ I’ve suggested to my female clients that no matter what they look like, if they loves their body, men will, too. This may require cultivating an appreciation for her uniqueness. When she can start to appreciate her imperfections as endearing distinctions, she will have begun to love herself in a way that allows her to love others.”

Click here to read the entire article, all good advice.

— Dr. Diana

Joan Price, author of “Naked at Our Age” — Mar. 28, 2017

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Many older people are not seen as sexual beings. Joan Price is on a mission to dispel this myth! She returned this week for Part 2. In her books, talks, and webinars she suggests how folks can reclaim their sexuality. Joan (www.JoanPrice.com) has written The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50, Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty, Naked at Our Age,  and Ageless Erotica. Orgasms are good for your health – whether generated alone or with a partner. “The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.” – Wilhelm Reich. Joan’s idea of tracking the tingle, breathing, using fantasy, and sex toys were all explored. We also discussed Dating while Older (DWO) –  a chapter in one of her books. This is a must read! The entire show is apt to inspire…no matter your age!

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Joan Price, author of “The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50” — March 21, 2017

Joan Price, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty

Joan Price has pulled senior sex out from under the covers, showing seniors – as well as those who are younger – that older folks don’t need to give up on their sexuality just because their bodies are older. Joan is a senior sexpert and has been dubbed a “wrinkly sex kitten”! Please go to www.JoanPrice.com, and to sign up for her newsletter www.eepurl.com/cx2Nab. Her books are: The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 – How to Maintain or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life, Better Than I Expected – Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty, Naked at Our Age – Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex, and “Ageless Erotica,  a book she edited. The latter is very sexy, very steamy! Dr. Diana and Joan explored why so many older people give up on sex. And, how do people stay sexual when they don’t have a partner? What about quick and easy tips for arousal – whether partnered or alone? Going on a journey of exploration is a good thing; indeed, what might work better? The health benefits of sexuality – including dealing with stress – were also discussed. There is so much more in the program…Please listen, no matter your age!

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Dr. Mitchell Tepper & Dr. Mark Schoen, “Making Love After Making War” — Mar. 7, 2017

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Have you heard? More than just a feeling, LOVE is action. Two men taking action are Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) and Dr. Mark Schoen (www.SexSmartFilms.com). Their labor of love is a collaborative documentary “Making Love after Making War” – a work still in progress. To help with the effort, please go to www.LoveAfterWar.org to sign up for the newsletter and to consider donating. Our vets are heroes, sometimes returning with catastrophic injuries resulting in PTSD, and intimacy/sexual problems – issues that are often ignored. Sadly, the suicide rate is huge. Our vets need counseling, they need more information. Emotional, sexual intimacy, and conceiving a child are often difficulties facing couples after war. We need to team up to help our injured vets rediscover life filled with passion, purpose, and pleasure!

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Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of “Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery” — Feb. 21, 2017

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Sexuality and disabilities are not addressed or explored enough. Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) reports that he “dove head first into the field” because of a diving accident years ago, breaking his neck. Since then he has become an internationally recognized sexuality educator, disability expert, and pioneer in spinal cord research and orgasm. His book Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery reveals that you don’t have to break your neck to be a great lover but you can learn a lot from someone who has. He has identified the importance of trust, safety, and connectedness. Pleasure is not merely a physical sensation, orgasm does not happen just between your legs, intimate connection fuels desire, and love is an action, not a feeling. Dr. Mitch does coaching via the phone or Skype in all parts of the world – not only for vets but for men and women who were born with or acquired disabilities. His contact information and ways to buy his book are on his website. Furthermore, by going to www.SexSmartFilms.com you can see him in other videos demonstrating tantra, ED, facilitated sex, and using touch via pleasure maps. In today’s program, there is much information – even for those of us who are able-bodied! The upcoming show on March 7th will explore in more depth “Making Love after Making War.” Please tune-in!

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Barbara and Michael Jonas, creators of “An Enchanted Evening” — Feb. 14, 2017

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The perfect guests for this Valentine’s Day: Barbara and Michael Jonas, voted by PEOPLE magazine to be one of America’s Most Romantic Couples. They have created many romantic games – the first one and star is An Enchanting Evening. For free downloads go to www.TimeforTwo.com, go to downloadable games, choose one and put it in the shopping cart using the code Wiley (until the end of this month). These games encourage playful touch and supportive communication. You are giving your partner the gift of time…slow down…play the game. One female player said, “It’s porn for women!” Most people need emotional and physical intimacy where they can turn off the world and turn each other on. On this V-Day, always choose love, always choose love! You will be inspired if you listen to this show.

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Bradley Coates, Esq., author of “Divorce with Decency” — Feb. 7, 2017

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“I was not against marriage. I believed in it, in fact. It was necessary to have one best friend in a hostile world…yet what about all those other longings which after a while, marriage did nothing much to appease?” – Fear of Flying, Erica Jong.  Once again Brad Coates (www.CoatesandFrey.com) joined the program. He is a man who knows much about marriage and divorce, the author of Divorce With Decency – Fourth Edition. This book has some fascinating statistics – including that we’re in a marriage slump. Fewer Americans are married today, largely because fewer young people are tying the knot. And, from Brad’s book: “There has been more than a 30% drop in the marriage rate since 1970…Thirty-six percent of women surveyed said they would not marry their same husbands again, whereas only 12 percent of married men admitted they had picked the wrong wife…Forty percent of all couples are estimated to be simply coexisting in unhappy marriages.” Women in Brad’s office complain about a lack of communication, and men often have a women in the wings (an affair). Yes, there is the sex part. The Canadian researchers who analyzed data from three different studies found that sex played an even bigger role than money in happiness. Tune in to discover the details!

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Dr. Linda De Villers, author of “Love Skills” and “Simple Sexy Food” — Jan. 31, 2017

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Dr. Linda De Villers returned. She is the author of Love Skills – A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships and Simple Sexy Food – 101 Tasty Aphrodisiac Recipes and Sensual Tips to Stir Your Libido and Feed Your Love. Both books can be found on www.DrLindaDeVillers.com – actually, perfect for St. Valentine’s Day coming up! Dr. Diana and Dr. Linda discussed gay and lesbian relationships – included in her 6th Edition of Love Skills. The LGBT civil rights movement has communicated there are different ways to be sexual and intimate. Dr. Linda’s book Love Skills points out that gay men can be competitive in exercising with a partner, and that some lesbian women have experienced sexual abuse. The reaction can be this: put on weight to protect oneself. Ramping up to V-Day, the docs spoke about kissing. Being a great kisser – mastering those lingering, luxuriant lip-locks can boost the frequency and quality of your bedroom action, studies suggest. The frequency of a couple’s kissing has implications about issues like abandonment, divorce, and infidelity. If you are kissing frequently, it telegraphs commitment. Dr. Linda’s book Simple Sexy Food understands that food and sex are inextricably linked. We use the same senses at the table to measure a great meal as we do to appreciate a fine time in bed – the eyes, the ears, the nose, the mouth, and tactile sensations. Great food is like great sex…both can evoke ecstatic pleasure! You’ll find some great V-Day inspirations!

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Rebecca Gould, author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet” — Jan. 24, 2017

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Rebecca Gould, author of The Multi-Orgasmic Diet – Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You, returned to the program (www.TheMultiOrgasmicDiet.com). Rebecca and Dr. Diana  reviewed the question – What is the multi-orgasmic diet? We also sampled more questions, for example:  What struggles did Rebecca face that made her want to help other women in this way? One of those women, Nicole from Brooklyn, called in (in the process receiving a free book), asking about foods that might help her sexual relationship. Rebecca and I also discussed this: What would you tell women who have sexual trauma or feel sexually shut down? Another profound discussion:  How does one apply Rebecca’s wisdom to relating to others? Many questions and many answers…You’ll want to hear the program!

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