Dr. Diana Wiley

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Board-Certified Sex Therapist

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Board-Certified Sex Therapist

Diana Wiley

Dr. Nick Karras, author of “The Passionate High” — April 3, 2018

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Dr. Nick Karras, author of The Passionate High – A guide to using cannabis for better sex & creativity, spoke with Dr. Diana and her husband Bryan Brewer. The three of us had such an engaging conversation at a recent sexuality conference, I thought we’d do it again — on the air!  In my practice I meet couples who complain about how the routine of their lives has left them feeling numb. Dr. Nick may have the solution: slowing down and appreciating each other – activities enhanced perhaps by cannabis. Dr. Nick observes, “I try to have my clients become more sensual first. When you are more sensual, intimacy happens and so does creativity.” His book which can be found on www.PassionateHigh.com covers Connection & Creativity, and Setting the Scene. Sensual, empathic sex can extend your pleasure! Yes, it’s true: lighting, foods, sounds and smells may all become receptive to heightened sensation. Sensuality is characterized by full absorption in the moment-to-moment experience of the senses. Please tune-in for some illuminating information!

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Sheri Winston, author of “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” — Mar. 27, 2018

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Sheri Winston (www.IntimateArtsCenter.com), author of Succulent Sex Craft and Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, returned to the program. On March 6th we called the show #goodsextoo; this time we focused on boundaries and communication. Women may get into situations where they are having second sexual thoughts and even bad sex. What to do? Boundaries: we need to be clear about what we want to do and don’t want to do. This is a conversation that should not occur when one is drunk; therefore, make decisions when the brain is working well. Two listeners called in – and the first will receive Sheri’s book Women’s Anatomy of Arousal. Both callers had fascinating observations and questions! Sheri knows so much…next time we’ll talk about how to create and then play inside a “conjoined erotic trance” – a state where intuitive magic happens!

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Linda De Villers, Ph.D., author of “Love Skills” — March 13, 2018

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Dr. Linda De Villers (www.DrLindaDeVillers.com) is the author of Love Skills – A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships – a wonderful book providing step-by-step programs for sexual fun, adventure and growth! Dr. Linda and Dr. Diana have been friends and colleagues since 1991. They both share this in common: Linda’s mother died at 100 in April and Diana’s died at 95 in August of 2017. Both docs were blessed with secure attachment in their families of origin! This is a positive because our attachment experience influences whether we see ourselves as lovable. If a secure person is with an anxious one, be receptive to his or her desire for security and allay fears when second-guessing or smothering seems to be going on. If with an avoidant who is clamming up, talk about how you can give him the space he may not even realize he wants…get him talking openly! Dr. Linda, who has done research on touch, speaks about getting in touch with touch. We spoke about touch in a baby’s life, how different cultures embrace touch or don’t, the distinction between sensuality and sexuality, and the limitations and benefits of caressing exercises. Body image issues plague many women who believe that they have to have a beautiful body to be alluring and enjoy pleasure. Sometimes it may be a way to avoid being sexual; indeed, a “self-image neurosis.” In order to love another, it’s important to respect his choice of you as a worthy lover. With this kind of self-respect, it’s easier to forget precise physical boundaries in the warm, sensual, sexual world that two people make together!

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Sheri Winston, author of “Succulent Sex Craft” — Mar. 6, 2018

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We’re calling this show #goodsextoo. In light of the current #metoo conversations, there appear to be women who are unhappy because they had bad sex … not coercive, violent or otherwise non-consensual sex, just sex that wasn’t very good. Sheri Winston and Dr. Diana spoke about how the latter can be prevented. Sheri is a celebrated sexuality teacher, an award-winning author, and a medical professional (www.IntimateArtsCenter.com). Her books are Succulent Sex Craft and Women’s Anatomy of Arousal – both great maps to “buried pleasure!” We discussed communication, mindfulness, and the challenges for men to understand women’s bodies and their arousal patterns. Sheri will return March 27th. During that live program, we will take questions. Please listen to this show, and call-in for the next one!

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David Steinberg, author of “This Thing We Call Sex” — Feb. 27, 2018

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This Thing We Call Sex

David Steinberg, author of This Thing We Call Sex, always a fascinating guest, spoke of his new screenplay project about Marco Vassi – a sexual adventurer and visionary. But first, Dr. Diana and David discussed his fine art erotic photographs. He has been involved with the Seattle Erotic Art Festival for fourteen years, arriving at the “Masters” level. This year he has five photos in the show, which runs April 27-19, 2018. David’s photography is entirely different from porn; while explicit, he is interested in the emotional connection between the couple. Back to David’s screenplay: Marco Vassi was intimately involved in NYC’s sex scene in the 70s and 80s, and the Hellfire Club played a role. Please tune-in for an amazing program…An “erotic masterpiece” is in the works!

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Mistress Matisse and Chelsea Cebara, creators of Velvet Swing — Feb. 20, 2018

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Cannabis and sex! Better orgasms! Matisse and Chelsea developed a cannabis-enhanced sensual lubricant called Velvet Swing which provides more fun for everyone (www.velvetswing.com). Discussions went from the pragmatic (Willie Nelson after being caught with a bag of marijuana: “It’s a good thing I had a bag of marijuana instead of a bag of spinach. I’d be dead by now.”) to the sublime (Natalie Angier, author of Woman, An Intimate Geography, said, “Marijuana can be a sexual mentor and sublime electrician, bringing the lights of Broadway to women who have spent years in frigid darkness.”) Chelsea and Matisse talked about the science of weed, the consent culture, the help that can be brought to sexual dysfunctions, slowing down, foreplay – and more! This is a program that will inform, and perhaps make a difference in your sex life.

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