Jessa Zimmerman – www.JessaZimmerman.com – author of Sex without Stress – A Couple’s Guide to Overcoming Disappointment, Avoidance, & Pressure returned to the program. This time we focused on “The Nine Phases of Taking the Stress Out of Sex.” Phase 1 is prioritizing intimacy – where it’s not just sex you’re scheduling; rather, it’s a trip to the playground. It’s important to just show up. With this sort of journey, there are no expectations, and you are seeing it as an opportunity to have fun. And, having fun together often fosters desire! There are many benefits derived from the giver-receiver exercises: one is that you need to take care of yourself, the foundation of trust. We also discussed exploring eroticism, her book’s Phase 9, where it is important to take and allow pleasure. Consent is built into this exercise. Practicing emotional surrender by reminding yourself of what you are especially grateful for in your lover…Be playful and expressive. Laugh! The articulate, informed Jessa will return in the new year.
Click below to listen to the interview (approx. one hour):
