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David Steinberg, author of “This Thing We Call Sex” — July 25, 2017

July 27, 2017 By Diana Wiley

David Steinberg’s (www.DavidSteinberg.us) view of sex is who we are, how we live, and how we experience desire, joy and life. This philosophy is described in his outstanding book This Thing We Call Sex. Dr. Diana and David discussed sexuality and politics. The “Summer of Love” 1967 was the touchstone. The 60s held a promise that love was coming to all of us, and many believed the decade of the 70s was going to deliver that love with sex and drugs and rock and roll. It often did! Boomers to this day have a continuing sense of sexual entitlement and the feeling of erotic hope. Repressive governments disempower people – thus making them less likely to make problems. In 1967 folks were declaring I can take charge of my own life…getting closer to the rightness of sexual pleasure that is indeed a healing force that supports people and the planet. David looked at the Trump administration with some wise and historically experienced wisdom. Tune in for more!

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Brad Coates, author of “Divorce with Decency” — July 11, 2017

July 12, 2017 By Diana Wiley

Brad Coates returned to the show. He knows all about marriage and divorce because he is a divorce lawyer in Honolulu, Hawaii (www.CoatesandFrey.com), and has written Divorce with Decency, now in its Fifth Edition. In 1972, 75% of all U.S. adults were married, but by the 2010 Census married couples comprised only 48% of all U.S. households. What are the causes and risk factors for divorce? Lack of communication is one: if a couple has experienced cheating, lying, neglect, or betrayal, they may want to throw dishes rather than sit down for a fireside chat. The birth of a first child is another: Gottman’s long-term studies show that two-thirds of the new parents were very unhappy. They treated each other with more contempt, belligerence, and sadness, as well as with less affection, humor, and empathy than did couples without children but married for the same amount of time. The studies also found that over the next year, hostility between partners increased dramatically, while the romance dissolved. Another risk factor is a lack of sex. Sexual satisfaction is one of the best predictors of overall happiness. Yet in one study, only 12% of couples reported not having “serious sexual problems” after having children. Brad points out that physical and sexual chemistry for both genders is often better in second marriages. Monogamy was also discussed. Oscar Wilde famously said, “Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.” Brad will return to the program August 15, 2017 for talk about the internet, social media, porn – as well as the rise of the “She Economy”…and more! Tune in.

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David Steinberg, author of “This Thing We Call Sex” — June 27, 2017

June 28, 2017 By Diana Wiley

David Steinberg (www.DavidSteinberg.us) has been writing about sexuality since 1989. His book, This Thing We Call Sex, is honest, funny, sometimes angry, but always profound. Dr. Diana and David discussed Fine Art Sexual Photography, something he has been doing since 1999. He photographs couples having sex, and he tells them to be themselves — to have a good time, to be really there with each other. His sexual photographs have won numerous awards, including at the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival. Many couples experience transformations after viewing their photos: one woman, for example, confronted deep issues of how she felt about her body. She called the experience of the photo shoot one of the most important days of her life! If you might be interested in being photographed, you may contact David through his website. David Steinberg has well documented the American sexual landscape. Please tune in for a fascinating interview!

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Dr. Sayed Shah, MD, Mandala Integrative Medicine — June 13, 2107

June 14, 2017 By Diana Wiley

Dr. Sayed Shah, MD (www.mimqc.com), and Dr. Diana discussed how gut health impacts our sexuality, as well as other important aspects of our lives. Last month Dr. Diana gave a keynote speech for Mandala Integrative Medicine’s “Women’s Integrative Lifestyle Forum” in Iowa. The focus of this interview was on how gut and sexual health are linked. Dr. Shah knows how important lifestyle changes are, giving the body tools for real health changes. Up to 80% of our immune system is impacted by and around our gut health. How do nutrition and food-related concerns impact a good sexual life? How is the Standard American Diet (SAD) affecting sexual lives? Does gut bacteria regulate our sex hormones? The old adage, “You are what you eat” could be reworded: “You are what your intestinal flora eat!” Dr. Shah’s observation is important: Health is a balance of mind, body, and spirit. Please listen for some potentially life-changing information!

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Dr. Lori Buckley, author of “21 Decisions for Great Sex & A Happy Relationship” — June 6, 2017

June 7, 2017 By Diana Wiley

Dr. Lori Buckley – www.DrLoriBuckley.com – returned to the program. Her book, 21 Decisions for Great Sex & a Happy Relationship, can be purchased on Amazon. As Sex Therapists, Dr. Lori and Dr. Diana discussed their favorite sex tips, books, and sex toys. Here’s a flavor for the show: Compliment your partner. It will make him/her feel noticed, special, and appreciated. The more connected she feels, the more sexually inspired she’ll feel. Also, explore new regions…perhaps the back of her neck, the base of her spine. Sex becomes about discovery, not seeking some destination. The goal of this show is to inspire you to reconnect — with yourself and your partner – and to suggest things you might do to put a little extra zest in your lovemaking. Some ask, “Who wants to work on sex? Isn’t it supposed to happened naturally?” No, sex is not a natural function; it’s a natural potential. It has to be developed, like reading, speaking a language, or spirituality. You may be inspired by listening to Dr. Lori and Dr. Diana!

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Veronica Monet, Certified Sex Educator and Sexologist — May 30, 2017

May 31, 2017 By Diana Wiley

Veronica Monet, a relationship and sexuality coach – www.TheShameFreeZone.com – returned to the program. Dr. Diana and Veronica explored codependency and body shame in more depth – having touched on these subjects on the May 9, 2017 show. There are common misunderstandings about codependency; actually, it is more than being needy, dependent. The codependent patterns may include people pleasing and being a control freak. Future codependents naturally feel comfortable in relationships in which their needs are secondary or ignored, while feeling compelled to take care of someone else. Consequently, they will gravitate toward narcissistic or selfish people. To begin healing, assertive skills and healthy boundaries are necessary. Who am I? What do I need? Body shame was discussed in the second half of the show. How does a woman’s image of her body affect her sexuality – and her relationship with her partner? “Self-image neurosis” is often a way to avoid being sexual, an excuse not to abandon herself to another. She may lose her sensitivity to her partner and forgo pleasure. What to do about poor body image? A woman must cultivate the ability to appreciate her uniqueness, and start to see “imperfections” as endearing distinctions. Many people believe that self-hatred is a catalyst for change…What is necessary is to be deliberately kind to oneself. Visit The Shame Free Zone because in about a week Veronica’s formula for Your Guide to Exquisite Partnership will be posted.

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