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Dr. Carol Queen (www.CarolQueen.com and www.GoodVibes.com)  observes in her The Sex & Pleasure Book – Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone: “Most of us weren’t given an operating manual for our wonderful bodies and the myriad sensations we can experience with them…especially not in sex education…Can you imagine if Driver’s Ed consisted of a teacher saying, ‘Now here’s a car: Now don’t drive it!’” Dr. Diana and Dr. Carol had a lively discussion around being sex-positive, sexual orientation issues, and transgender identities. Why has the term sex positivity come to be misunderstood in so many circles? What about sexual orientation and its fluidity? In her book is great advice/resources for transgender folks and the parents of trans kids. Sex can be a way of working through fears and crises, as well as a place for growth, forgiveness, fun, and friendship!

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Great sex is not about technique. It’s about integrating your head, heart and spirit with your genitals. Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce (www.drnsp.com) returned to the program to help sort this out. On September 16th she will be a speaker at Catalystcon (www.catalystcon.com). Her topic: “Sexy Doesn’t Have An Expiration Date.” Dr. Diana interviewed Dr. Nancy, covering the following topics: How do we define sexy and why is it even important? What happens to us when we don’t feel sexy? (Depression, health issues). She does some Myth Busting – namely, SEXY IS A LOOK OR SIZE; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY OVER 50; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY AND A GRANDMOTHER; IT’S NATURAL TO LOSE INTEREST IN BEING SEXY AS YOU AGE. Good sex is not about how your body looks or how you position it. It’s about your frame of mind and the emotional connection with your partner. Many older women are able to say what they want, no longer apologizing for their eroticism. The enjoyment of sex is then likely to be increased! Dr. Nancy also asks, “What advice would you give to your much younger self?” Perhaps it is that instead of getting someone to love you, you want to be someone capable of loving! Or maybe it is important to maintain your sense of separateness – not always doing everything together, and understanding that the central agent of eroticism is the imagination. You must be willing to take risks, to play! As we age, many of us hope for this: with any luck, a modicum of health, and a willingness to remain open to its potential, the deliciousness of sensual intimacy can continue right to the end.

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Dr. Dudley Danoff, MD, FACS, a world-renowned urologist, returned to the program. His newest book edition just came out today: Male Sexual Health – How to Stay Vital at Any Age – www.theultimateguidetomenshealth.com. There are many praises for Dr. Danoff’s book – including this from Larry King:  “Gives insightful, accurate, humorous, and knowledgeable answers to all the questions you were afraid to ask. I loved it, learned a lot, and highly recommend it.” Dr. Danoff and Dr. Diana discussed his five ways to reinvigorate your love life: (1) Keep boredom out of the bedroom; (2) Give yourself permission to try something new; (3) Pay attention to your body’s rhythms; (4) Don’t confine sex to the nighttime; (5) Look into alternate sex practices. The key to an exciting sex life is novelty – we all crave new and different experiences. A skilled lover plugs into a woman’s breath and pelvic thrusts to follow her lead. Seduce a woman’s mind … women are like crockpots – they take time to warm up. If a man seduces her mind, she’ll want the man to seduce her body later on. Great sex is an emotional connection – with good skills backed by informed knowledge. Tune in and buy his book. You won’t regret it!

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Hedonism…Yes! Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce (www.drnsp.com) is a sex and relationship author, and international speaker, and a sensuality educator. She knows good sex is intentional, not spontaneous. It’s a practice you can have fun with and get better at, like yoga or meditation. Dr. Nancy is an event coordinator for the Hedonism Resort (www.hedonism.com) – a 36-year-old resort that has the largest percentage of repeat visitors in the world. Every week has a different “personality”: for swingers, for couples doing an intimacy retreat, for singles to learn about rejection, etc. The website will reveal more; however, keep in mind the images there are of models…the average predominant age range is 45-55 years. And some are older. The prevailing themes are authenticity, non-judgmental feelings and acceptance. Often these folks have discovered how refreshing and liberating it is to put aside notions of “normal” sexual behavior, forging their own. Dr. Nancy will return to this program August 29th. We’ll discuss the cruises, Lifestyles take-overs, where she teaches. Dr. Diana and Dr. Nancy will also talk about her presentation coming up at CatalystCon in Los Angeles September 16th on “Sexy Doesn’t Have an Expiration Date.” Tune in!

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