Great sex is not about technique. It’s about integrating your head, heart and spirit with your genitals. Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce (www.drnsp.com) returned to the program to help sort this out. On September 16th she will be a speaker at Catalystcon (www.catalystcon.com). Her topic: “Sexy Doesn’t Have An Expiration Date.” Dr. Diana interviewed Dr. Nancy, covering the following topics: How do we define sexy and why is it even important? What happens to us when we don’t feel sexy? (Depression, health issues). She does some Myth Busting – namely, SEXY IS A LOOK OR SIZE; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY OVER 50; YOU CAN’T BE SEXY AND A GRANDMOTHER; IT’S NATURAL TO LOSE INTEREST IN BEING SEXY AS YOU AGE. Good sex is not about how your body looks or how you position it. It’s about your frame of mind and the emotional connection with your partner. Many older women are able to say what they want, no longer apologizing for their eroticism. The enjoyment of sex is then likely to be increased! Dr. Nancy also asks, “What advice would you give to your much younger self?” Perhaps it is that instead of getting someone to love you, you want to be someone capable of loving! Or maybe it is important to maintain your sense of separateness – not always doing everything together, and understanding that the central agent of eroticism is the imagination. You must be willing to take risks, to play! As we age, many of us hope for this: with any luck, a modicum of health, and a willingness to remain open to its potential, the deliciousness of sensual intimacy can continue right to the end.

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Dr. Dudley Danoff, MD, FACS, a world-renowned urologist, returned to the program. His newest book edition just came out today: Male Sexual Health – How to Stay Vital at Any Age – www.theultimateguidetomenshealth.com. There are many praises for Dr. Danoff’s book – including this from Larry King:  “Gives insightful, accurate, humorous, and knowledgeable answers to all the questions you were afraid to ask. I loved it, learned a lot, and highly recommend it.” Dr. Danoff and Dr. Diana discussed his five ways to reinvigorate your love life: (1) Keep boredom out of the bedroom; (2) Give yourself permission to try something new; (3) Pay attention to your body’s rhythms; (4) Don’t confine sex to the nighttime; (5) Look into alternate sex practices. The key to an exciting sex life is novelty – we all crave new and different experiences. A skilled lover plugs into a woman’s breath and pelvic thrusts to follow her lead. Seduce a woman’s mind … women are like crockpots – they take time to warm up. If a man seduces her mind, she’ll want the man to seduce her body later on. Great sex is an emotional connection – with good skills backed by informed knowledge. Tune in and buy his book. You won’t regret it!

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Hedonism…Yes! Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce (www.drnsp.com) is a sex and relationship author, and international speaker, and a sensuality educator. She knows good sex is intentional, not spontaneous. It’s a practice you can have fun with and get better at, like yoga or meditation. Dr. Nancy is an event coordinator for the Hedonism Resort (www.hedonism.com) – a 36-year-old resort that has the largest percentage of repeat visitors in the world. Every week has a different “personality”: for swingers, for couples doing an intimacy retreat, for singles to learn about rejection, etc. The website will reveal more; however, keep in mind the images there are of models…the average predominant age range is 45-55 years. And some are older. The prevailing themes are authenticity, non-judgmental feelings and acceptance. Often these folks have discovered how refreshing and liberating it is to put aside notions of “normal” sexual behavior, forging their own. Dr. Nancy will return to this program August 29th. We’ll discuss the cruises, Lifestyles take-overs, where she teaches. Dr. Diana and Dr. Nancy will also talk about her presentation coming up at CatalystCon in Los Angeles September 16th on “Sexy Doesn’t Have an Expiration Date.” Tune in!

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Brad Coates returned to the show. He knows all about marriage and divorce because he is a divorce lawyer in Honolulu, Hawaii (www.CoatesandFrey.com), and has written Divorce with Decency, now in its Fifth Edition. In 1972, 75% of all U.S. adults were married, but by the 2010 Census married couples comprised only 48% of all U.S. households. What are the causes and risk factors for divorce? Lack of communication is one: if a couple has experienced cheating, lying, neglect, or betrayal, they may want to throw dishes rather than sit down for a fireside chat. The birth of a first child is another: Gottman’s long-term studies show that two-thirds of the new parents were very unhappy. They treated each other with more contempt, belligerence, and sadness, as well as with less affection, humor, and empathy than did couples without children but married for the same amount of time. The studies also found that over the next year, hostility between partners increased dramatically, while the romance dissolved. Another risk factor is a lack of sex. Sexual satisfaction is one of the best predictors of overall happiness. Yet in one study, only 12% of couples reported not having “serious sexual problems” after having children. Brad points out that physical and sexual chemistry for both genders is often better in second marriages. Monogamy was also discussed. Oscar Wilde famously said, “Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.” Brad will return to the program August 15, 2017 for talk about the internet, social media, porn – as well as the rise of the “She Economy”…and more!  Tune in.

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Dr. Sayed Shah, MD (www.mimqc.com), and Dr. Diana discussed how gut health impacts our sexuality, as well as other important aspects of our lives. Last month Dr. Diana gave a keynote speech for Mandala Integrative Medicine’s “Women’s Integrative Lifestyle Forum” in Iowa. The focus of this interview was on how gut and sexual health are linked. Dr. Shah knows how important lifestyle changes are, giving the body tools for real health changes. Up to 80% of our immune system is impacted by and around our gut health. How do nutrition and food-related concerns impact a good sexual life? How is the Standard American Diet (SAD) affecting sexual lives? Does gut bacteria regulate our sex hormones?  The old adage, “You are what you eat” could be reworded: “You are what your intestinal flora eat!” Dr. Shah’s observation is important: Health is a balance of mind, body, and spirit. Please listen for some potentially life-changing information!

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